All Quiet on the Western Front

We've had a few good days since Tuesday. She's been on the Xanex every day and it has evened her out a bit. In the meantime, we've started getting ready for a nursing home for her and getting all the paperwork ready. The medicaid application went out on Tuesday and we are looking at placing her at Hale Makua. And that is really dependent on the fact that she behaves or not.

We really want to give her another chance but she has to understand that she isn't able to manage things as she used to. Her dementia seems to be getting worse. Of course she is not getting any medicine for it since she is in denial that she even has it.

In the meantime, she was looking for a place to move. She got an application for Lokenani Hale, which is a place for the elderly, but they must be independent. In other words, they must be able to think for themselves. We are just watching to see how she will handle this. They would be smart to get with her doctor to make sure she is capable of living on her own. We shall see how much she can do by herself. We are letting her fill out the application all by herself, figure out how she wants to move there, etc. etc. All these things will have to take its course and we understand that we can't enable her any longer by helping her move. But we have decided that Dad is better off with us.

We still have to have a meeting with the doctor who is going to let them know that they are incapable of living independently, much less, taking care of their finances. We aren't sure how she will respond to that. Most likely she will not believe him and will want to switch doctors. We just need to let it run its course and eventually she will run out of options.