All the while Dad complains that she doesn't like him, he's not wanted, etc. So he just sits on the deck by himself and falls asleep. Or he plays solitaire by himself. I feel sorry for him. He's such a lonely man.
Last night (Aug 8th) Tommy and I took turns playing cards with him. As he is playing, he is constantly having to recall the rules of the game. He gets confused easily and has a hard time focusing on what's going on. So Tommy played trumps with him which is a game he is very familiar with. Dad called the trump and he kept forgetting what it was. Later on I played a new game with him: Gin. It is my intention to try to keep him engaged in activities where he really has to focus and challenge his thinking.
It was while we were playing Gin that Mom came out to use the bathroom. Now mind you, she had been sleeping all day. She doesn't want him around her, but yet she gets jealous of me when I am reading to him, playing cards with him, making him breakfast, etc. So anyway, she came out of the bathroom and Dad asked if she was hungry. She totally ignored him, went back into her room, and turned the TV on really loud. It was already almost 10 pm. She just did that out of spite. Our son Ryan was not feeling good and was asleep in his room, kitty-corner from them. My DH had to tell her to turn it down.
This morning (Aug 9th) we found Dad on the couch. Not sure how long he had been there. But Mom came out shortly after, crying and wanting to talk to both me and DH privately. She said Dad kicked her in her pelvis during the night while he was sleeping. She said "she can't handle it any longer; she can't live with that man." We both assured her we were working on a plan.
DH called his brother to pick Dad up to get her away from her. In the meantime she called her daughter on Oahu to see if she could live with her. Of course, that's not going to happen. We are learning to just observe and watch things unfold. We are hoping that this will be a smooth transition.
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