When we first woke up, DH decided we should write a letter to Dad to let him know what's happening to Mom. We had found a note she wrote entitled "Why We Need to Separate." She outlined that she can no longer live with him. So DH sat down with him, gave him the letter we wrote and attached a xerox copy of her note to tell him that she wanted to separate from him. He then talked to him and answered any questions he had about it. It went very well. Not sure if that was the right thing to do because he keeps asking about going to see Mom. We then show him the letter to "refresh" his memory.
My SIL, "J," advised me to talk to the social worker on call, which I did. Everything seems to be going as planned.
I really dreaded today because I would be alone with Dad. DH had to go to work and my son went camping. I just knew he would ask me over and over about calling or visiting her in the hospital. Things went pretty good.. We talked about his siblings and we talked a lot. Everything went well right until 3:45 when he asked again to see Ma and that he would start walking if I didn't take him. I must admit, I panicked a little. I called DH to let him know. Then I got an idea and called my SIL in Texas. I asked her to please talk to him and keep him occupied while DH was on his way home. That went well. It is a little tricky and nerve-wracking to keep him calmed down.
We received a call from the nurse at Maui Memorial who talked to DH for a while. I guess Ma had given her her "pitiful story." Apparently she has been calling my SIL "K," thinking that her son was home. She left messages to tell Dad to call her at the hospital. That is her MO. She drags him in and they conspire a plan, and they feed off of each other. But then, maybe only a half hour later, she gets irritated with him and wants to leave him.
Later on his other daughter from Oahu called but he had gone to bed already. We have to write things down in his journal, so that he knows that his kids really do call. So today went well.
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